When someone’s behavior concerns you, you don’t have to face it alone.

Help Out NY is a free, confidential support service for New Yorkers to prevent violence. Whether you’re noticing behaviors that are concerning to you, feel like something is off, or need guidance on next steps, reaching out is always the right call.

Know The Signs

Some behaviors may indicate a serious risk of violence. If someone you know is engaging in one of these behaviors, we strongly suggest you contact the New York Tip Line (866-723-3697). If this is an emergency, call 911.

A person is preparing to commit an act of violence

They may gather or attempt to gather weapons, ammunition, explosives, or body armor. They may watch or monitor potential targets including people or places.

A person is making threats

They are saying, either verbally or in writing that they are going to hurt or kill others.

A person says or does things that suggest they may not be around much longer

A person is saying goodbye or talking about not being around much longer. This can include giving away cherished possessions, experiencing a sudden increase in energy, and accomplishing tasks they weren’t able to complete before.

Other behaviors are concerning but might not indicate a serious risk of violence. We still recommend you contact us. We are here to help out.

A person is speaking, writing, or posting about harming themselves or others

They might speak, write, draw, or post about harming themselves or others, either in seriousness or as a joke.

A person has a concerning fascination with past attacks or attackers

They show a strong interest in people who committed violent acts in a way that seems admiring or obsessive. They may also justify or celebrate past attacks.

A person talks about violence as though it's the only option

A person talks about violent action as the only or best choice for resolving a problem. They indicate that there is an urgent or critical need to take action.

A person is increasingly obsessed with an injustice or harm

A person becomes fixated on an injustice or harm. The issue begins to take over their thinking, they may become increasingly angry, they may blame others for this injustice or harm. and they may speak about a desire or need for revenge.

A person is withdrawing from relationships and activities

A person is distancing themselves from people and activities that they typically enjoy.

A person is obsessed with a person, place, belief or cause

A person becomes so fixated on someone or something that it takes over their thinking and they are unable to move past it.

A person is talking or acting in ways that show increasing despair

A person is increasingly describing their current state and/or the future in terms that suggest hopelessness and despair. This can include speaking, writing, drawing, or posting.

The Earlier, The Better

Most people who commit acts of violence show warning signs beforehand. When people like you notice the signs early and take action, violence can often be prevented.

You don’t need to wait until a situation feels urgent – reaching out when you first notice concerning changes is one of the best ways to help the person you care about.

Who we are

Help Out NY is staffed by licensed mental health professionals with experience in violence prevention, de-escalation, and supporting people navigating difficult situations.

When you contact us, trained mental health professionals will respond with resources and support for your situation. It’s okay if you’re unsure what to do or how to help; we’ll help you understand your options and won’t judge.